Why are you still single?

Why you are still single?

People always asked this question to their single friend. They might even ask this question to themselves, if he/she is single. So why are you single? Usually, I’ve been asked this question over and over, and the answer to that is because “I am fat, fat is equal to bida, so no want interested me, so just face the single life”. And as usual, the response was predictable. I will usually get the, “Ndakan pasal fat, there is a lot of fat people in Brunei, in the world and yet they got bf, lots are married, and now living happily with their husband.” And with that response they gave me, I will just smile and say, “banar plang”.

Then, this is the part where they gonna accused me. “You ne pemilih kali wah”. HaHa. =) Now this is where the arguments start. I might agree to the extent that I am choosy, but not terms of look la, more into life security. I mean if I want, I can easily select a guy from the few that proposed, to be my boyfriend. But am I desperate enough to have a bf? No. I mean, I don’t want to have one just because my friend or cuzzin have a partner.

I always tell my single friends, don’t be too choosy but you have to choose. This means that you need list out all the criteria that you want in a guy/girl, but later prioritized it. These criteria should be prioritized by: Criteria Need to Have, Criteria Nice to Have.

Let’s assume below are the usual criteria that we search in a partner:
Stable income, Good looking, Religious, Educated, Funny, Honest and Mature

There you got the list. So from the list, which is the most important to you? Good looking? Or Educated? Why you need to consider this because you can’t get all the criteria in a single person. No one is perfect. Even if there is any, only 0.01% exists. Taking all the criteria when you make selection means you are choosy, as you narrow down and limits your option. So, you won’t get even a person to be a partner. HaHa. This is what I call choosy. As for me, I’m not a choosy person, I’m just choosing the best for me.

In simple words, I don’t want all those criteria in a person. To me, if I were to listed out priorities in terms of criteria of my partner, below are the arrangement:

(1) Honesty – I mean, hellew, honesty is important. What for you get a good looking guy or rich one but they cheated one you?
(2) Stable income – no need to be rich
(3) Mature - 
(4) Educated/Religious – teach you life and guiding you
(5) Funny – to cheer you up
(6) Good looking – nice to have, not a must, yang penting sedap mata memandang.

There you go, I’m not choosy but choosing for da best dat I could have. So why am I still single? Coz its not easy to find a person with stable income/mature  abis2..if I ever encounter, married person, which I dun think I can have. Haha.. I say so? I mean you will say byk jua orang muda2 with stable income. Yeah its true, but…most of them is not mature enough in terms of thinking, they dun take life seriously yet, and this turn off my mood. Occasionally I do encounter few who are at my age (or late 20’s), who are mature, but again…milik orang :P so, here I am, still single. Does that answer everyone’s question? You might again ask why don’t I try be with someone with stable income but young at mind (not mature).

To tell you the truth, I ever try to accept this kinda person. In fact, I ever knew 2 guys, both were at their late 20’s. Know them in 2 different occasion and time frame. They have stable income, and are good looking. But I doubt their honesty. Hehe (well I know that’s my problem, being in doubt). There were also not mature enough for me. I try to accept this. Try to have serious relationship with any of this two guy, but *sigh*, at the end of the day, my heart can accept the fact that I need someone who are mature enough to actually lead my way, instead of me leading their way. They don’t even think about their own future, as long as they get paid, that’s it. Aduhs! And that is not me. Hehe..Turn off tarus.



Before them, I’ve known a guy and we become couple. Lets call him Mr. A. This guy suits me. He has stable income and are mature. But at later stage of the relation, I’ve realized that he is married. You might ask how come I didn’t know all this while?

1st of all, I did ask him. His only answer is, “If I tell you, you wouldn’t want to be with me anymore”. So tired of asking, I just accept him. Another thing why I didn’t suspect that he is married because he called me up, day and night, messaging me, not scared going out in public with me. Siapa jua sangka ia have wife ryt? But kuasa Allah, my mums’ friend saw us time jalan2 and told my mum that he is a married man. Thus, I break up with him. To tell you the truth, I do like him.  He’s mature and understand me better, not to mention he loves me so much. But then, his not honest. Kwang kwang. My mistake. But the funny part is, his wife is actually ok with our relation, he said. Mula-mula I don’t believe him. But when I speak to his wife, we even go out together and become like sisters. Haha. He even proposed me for her husband. I salute her. But because of that jua, I can’t continue. His wife is too nice and should not be hurt.  Thank Mie. (That is my 1st love story :P haha.. Sad huh!) . But we are still friend. Haha. Tho’ he still continue to convince me to accept him. Haha. No Way!

My 2nd relations is with a guy which I will call here Mr. K. I will talk about him in my next blog. Now, I’ve finished my lunch break. HeHe. So, got to work again ;) . Until then….